Loving Your Self

Writing New Year’s Resolutions is a great way to begin 2019. What we do with those resolutions determines whether or not they are actually good for us. We start out with great intentions and within a week or so, we are criticizing ourselves for not following through with our grand plan. We didn’t keep to our diet or we didn’t make those phone calls to create new business or we shouted at someone in a fit of anger. Now we’ve turned our good intentions against ourselves and before the end of January, we’ve decided we won’t succeed so there’s no point in trying. It doesn’t have to be that way.

Instead of tearing up your resolutions, I suggest you practice self-compassion. About 90% of our self-talk is negative. Our minds are actually programmed to focus on the negative because our survival depended on it when we were hunters and gatherers. With this awareness, you can make new choices. You can choose to give yourself a break and see yourself as a learner. Change takes time, commitment and patience. If it were easy, everyone would do it. Instead of giving up on yourself, you could support yourself the way a loving friend would do. Instead of focusing on what you didn’t do, you could focus on what you did accomplish. Instead of thinking you failed, you could tell yourself, I didn’t do it yet or I’m part way to my goal.

When you’re embarking on change, it’s helpful to monitor your progress. If you’re working on releasing your anger, for instance, ask yourself:

  • Is the intensity of my anger diminished?
  • Is the duration of my anger shorter?
  • Is my recovery time faster?
  • Is the amount of time between angry outbursts greater?

Teach yourself to notice small changes over time. Often we forget how far we’ve come and only see that we’re not at the end of what we hope to accomplish. We can honor our progress better if we imagine a simple line graph from 0 to 100, with zero being where we started and 100 being our desired goal. We can put ourselves where we are today on that line and see how much progress we’ve made. We may not be at the end, but we’re not at the beginning either.

Congratulate yourself on your progress, and celebrate your victories! Make it real. Literally pat yourself on the back or treat yourself to something special. Know that you deserve to feel good about your success, because you do!

For more on self-compassion, manifestation, and being true to your Self, please visit Dr. Paula’s radio show Uplift Your Life: Nourishment of the Spirit.

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Distress or Chronic Stress

Distress or chronic stress is uncontrollable, prolonged, or overwhelming stress. Once stress becomes distress, the body manages to survive though not always to thrive. For example, when faced with periods of chronic stress, the body’s immune system function is lowered, and the digestive, excretory, and reproductive systems no longer function the way they should. In a state of distress, the cells of the immune system (and other body systems) are unable to respond normally and produce levels of inflammation which increase the risk of further health issues.


Homeostasis refers to your body’s ability to regulate itself and maintain a comparatively stable internal environment despite external and internal conditions and events.

Your body is designed to be in a state of homeostasis, where all the systems within are functioning optimally.


Stressor is anything that is perceived by the body as challenging, threatening or demanding.

Health Story

In the context of My Wellbeing Compass, your “Health Story” represents the combination of your dis-eases, conditions, symptoms and the history that binds them together. It is multi-layered and multi-dimensional. Unearthing and resolving the root causes at the core of your Health Story is the only way to truly rewrite this Story.

Natural Self-repair Mechanisms

The body is made up of intelligent, living cells that are dynamically connected. They communicate and just know what to do and when to do it in any given situation. They grow, replicate, repair, and age. Every 90 days, the body has a new bloodstream; every year, it manufactures billions of new cells; colon cells refresh every 4 days; the skin is entirely regenerated every 2-3 weeks; white blood cells regenerate in about 1 year; the liver renews itself at least once every 2 years; and the skeleton replaces its cells entirely every 10 years.

You are an incredibly complex, interactive, and dynamic living organism that is well-equipped with self-repair mechanisms that can fight infections, eliminate toxins, fix damaged DNA, destroy cancer cells, and even slow down aging.

This natural self-healing ability (also referred to as cellular intelligence or body’s innate intelligence) explains spontaneous remissions from seemingly “incurable” diseases.

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